In-person Dates
"Intimacy is not purely physical. It's the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul." — Reshall Varsos
Our in-person journey together always starts with at least one or two casual or spicy videochats to get to know each other better and to see if the chemistry is right before meeting in-person.
Honestly, I really enjoy first getting to know people socially. Exploring new places together or you showing me new places that you’re familiar with has always been the most rewarding to me.
If we have first spent a minimum of two or more social dates together and I have felt completely comfortable with you during our time together, I will consider taking things to the next level. If that time should come, I will share the password for my Inclusive Dates page with you when the time is right. Only a few very special suitors are allowed to know me intimately. Will you be one of them?
I will always bring a high level of attentiveness, awareness, and maturity to our time together. Your investment in me reflects my preference for longer engagements and reoccurring encounters with you. That being said, no matter which type of encounter you’d like to pursue, I look forward to meeting you with compassion, authenticity, playfulness and presence.
Here’s some social date ideas for you to consider…
A Day Odyssey — A day on the golf course, a long hike, dinner followed by a concert or club (~6 hours - $475)
A Short Exploration — Experiencing a museum or gallery, dinner & a movie, a wine tasting, trip to a casino (~4 hours - $375)
Wanderings — Exploring a neighborhood , a leisurely bike ride, or trying to beat each other at pickleball to work up our appetites followed by lunch or dinner (~3 hours - $275)
Lingering — A relaxed lunch or dinner (up to 2 hours - $200)
Each additional hour — $100
For established friends:
12 - 15 hours — $1,000
24 hours — $1,800
Friday evening thru Sunday Afternoon (~36 hours) — $2,500
Longer-term Experiences — $1,800 (first 24 hours) + $900 for each additional 24 hours — 5 day maximum
Please see the Scheduling, Travel & Hospitality sections below for more information regarding the additional consideration requested for experiences outside the upper Midwest.
PLEASE NOTE: Prior screening is required for all in-person dates. Each of these encounters should include only public, social experiences.
Your investment is only for my time and companionship. Nothing more is expected or implied.
SCHEDULING
I live in the rural upper Midwest United States, surrounded by beautiful lakes, streams, parks, and the mighty Mississippi River. I love to travel, and meetings outside the region (including DMTY and FMTY) are fun and exciting, but take more time to plan!
From Fall through Spring, I am only available to meet you on weekends with at least two weeks notice. But don’t despair! My summer availability is much more flexible.
Please just be patient getting things scheduled as we plan our time together. I’ll try to make it worth your while, I promise!
I’m also very happy to tentatively schedule a month or two in advance if that’s what you prefer.
TRAVEL
Travel outside the upper Midwest may incur additional consideration. All travel requires airfare (First-Class, Business, or Coach Upgrade flights) and/or ground transportation. I organize all my own travel arrangements. All details will be discussed/agreed upon after verification but before receipt of deposit. May be waived at my descretion.
Example “Drive Me to You” Additional Time & Mileage Consideration
Cedar Rapids, IA, Wisconsin Dells, WI — 2 hour minimum engagement + $50 travel time, plus ground transportation
Madison, WI, Minneapolis, MN — 3 hour minimum engagement + $100 travel time, plus ground transportation
Green Bay, WI, Milwaukee, WI — 4 hour minimum engagement + $200 travel time, plus ground transportation
Chicago, IL, St. Louis, MO — 6 hour minimum engagement + $300 travel time, plus ground transportation (may incur airfare instead of ground transportation in addition to travel time depending on time requirements)
Example “Fly Me To You” Minimum Time Together & Additional Travel Time Allowance (excluding transportation expenses)
Central United States — 4 hour minimum engagement +$400 travel time
East Coast, Southeast US or Mountain/Western time zone — 6 hour minimum engagement +$600 travel time
International — 24 hour minimum engagement +$1,000 travel time
HOSPITALITY
I organize all my own hotel arrangements.
Times we are together between 3 hours and 5 hours should include a meal.
Times we are together between 6 and 12 hours should include 1-2 meals (depending on how hungry we are!)
If our time together ends after 11pm, if requested, please plan on providing separate 4/5-star hotel accommodations. However, meeting for breakfast the next morning would be great!
For times we are together for 12 hours or longer, please plan on providing separate 4/5-star hotel accommodations, 2 hours of personal time each day, and at least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep time each night.
DEPOSITS
Your total investment will be provided to you prior to confirming our meeting and after verification. A deposit equal to 25% of your time investment plus 100% of travel and accommodation expenses is requested that may be paid through CashApp, Venmo, or Stripe (major credit cards, GPay, ApplePay, Affirm, Klarna). The remaining investment is required in US dollars at the time of our engagement for new clients. If discussed beforehand, electronic funds may be accepted for returning clients.
FMTY and extended time together requires a 50% deposit and all travel/hospitality expenses paid beforehand with the balance due in US dollars on arrival.
CANCELLATIONS
48+ hours — entire deposit applied toward a future meeting
24-48 hours — 50% of deposit applied toward a future meeting
8-24 hours — forfeit deposit
Less than 8 hours — forfeit deposit AND pay 50% of the remaining amount
Fail to notify, or notify at/after date start time — forfeit deposit AND pay the entire remaining amount